Going through a divorce is likely to be one of the most stressful experiences of your life. It involves more than just your emotions, but affects your lifestyle, finances, home, and your children and pets if you have them. Here are some tips for getting through the divorce without too many arguments.
Use a Mediator
While you also want to have a divorce attorney from the beginning of the divorce process, you and your spouse should also consider going to a mediator. The mediator is a neutral third-party that helps you resolve any issues you might have. These might relate to who gets the house, who your children will live with, and what to do about a business you started together. Mediation is a great way to get past some of your disagreements and come to a reasonable compromise.
Work Out issues Before Involving Your Children
Try not to let your children know about the divorce until you have worked out some of the major issues. This doesn't mean lying to your children until you have already divorced, but simply working out some of the bigger decisions beforehand. For example, by the time you speak to them about the divorce, you should already know which parent is remaining in the family home, and which parent is moving. The parent that is moving should already have a stable place to live and should be nearby, which can ease the child's mind. Try to make the most important decisions first, but do leave it up to your children to decide who they live with if at all possible.
Get Separate Bank Accounts Immediately
Separating your finances is something you need to do right away, as soon as you have decided to separate or divorce. If your only bank account is a joint account, now is the time to separate it. If only one of you is employed, you will need to decide how much money to leave in your spouse's bank account so they can still care for your children and pay for basic needs. Alimony may be something to deal with later on. If you both work, you simply have your own paychecks being deposited into your account, making it a simple way to separate the finances.
Be Willing to Compromise
It is really important to be open to compromise during a divorce. Nobody is going to get everything they want, so the sooner you accept that, the quicker the divorce will be. For an uncontested divorce, this means being willing to let go of some things you might want. If your spouse gets the house because they will have custody of the children, then you should get your choice of the cars. Try to separate the property in a way that is both fair and logical.
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